I need to leave my two bonded cats, aged 3 and 4, with my mom for 4 months while I support my partner with his father’s terminal illness. My mom plans to care for them most of the day, and she’s considering sleeping over to give them full-time company. I’m worried they’ll become anxious without me and maybe even get sick. Has anyone gone through this? Will they remember me after such a long time?
Try doing video calls with them while you’re away, and if possible, visit occasionally. Even though they miss you, they’ll remember you when you return!
Have you thought of taking them with you? Cats are pretty adaptable if they have their favorite things and people around.
Uma said:
Have you thought of taking them with you? Cats are pretty adaptable if they have their favorite things and people around.
I’d love to, but his parents have two dogs that don’t get along with cats. We thought about month-to-month rentals, but constant change might stress them out.
Your mom sounds like a wonderful caretaker for your cats. Bring their favorite things—beds, cat tower, toys—and make a list of their routines for her. Since they’re a bonded pair, they’ll comfort each other while you’re gone.
Cats are surprisingly tough, and having each other will help. Your mom’s regular presence will reassure them too. It sounds like a good setup, and they’ll still be bonded to you when you return.
I’m so sorry about your partner’s dad. Your cats will be okay, and they’ll definitely remember you. They have each other for company, so they won’t be too lonely. Sending you strength!
It might help to have your mom spend a few days with them before you go. This way, they get comfortable with her. Adding a Feliway diffuser could also help calm them.
It’s great your mom can be there so often! Just in case, consider arranging a backup caretaker. Four months is a long commitment, and it’s good to have a plan B.