So, about two years ago, my friend asked me to take care of his two-month-old kittens for what was supposed to be 6-8 weeks while he got back on his feet. Fast forward a year, and I’ve been their primary caregiver. We’ve really bonded, and I can’t imagine giving them back now that we’ve been together for so long. I even agreed to be roommates when he was ready to move out, but it’s clear the cats see me as their main person. Now that we’re moving apart, he insists they stay with him, even though he hasn’t been their main caregiver for a while. The vet noted they’re listed as my cats, which makes this even trickier. I’m feeling stuck and would love some advice on what to do. Thanks!
That’s such a tough situation! It sounds like you’ve really bonded with them. Have you talked about how much they mean to you?
Taylor said:
That’s such a tough situation! It sounds like you’ve really bonded with them. Have you talked about how much they mean to you?
I’ve tried, but he’s pretty set on them staying with him. 
Honestly, if the vet has them listed as your cats, that gives you some leverage. Maybe present that to him?
Mika said:
Honestly, if the vet has them listed as your cats, that gives you some leverage. Maybe present that to him?
I was thinking about it! I just don’t want to ruin our friendship over this.
Have you considered offering to pay him for the cats? It might make it easier for him to let them go.
Charley said:
Have you considered offering to pay him for the cats? It might make it easier for him to let them go.
That’s a good idea! I could definitely do that. I just want them to be happy.
It’s really about the cats’ wellbeing. If they’re happier with you, that should matter most. Maybe suggest a trial period?
Fynn said:
It’s really about the cats’ wellbeing. If they’re happier with you, that should matter most. Maybe suggest a trial period?
A trial could work! It might show him how attached they are to me.
You’ve taken care of them for so long, and it sounds like they see you as their home. This is a tough call, but trust your gut!
Phoenix said:
You’ve taken care of them for so long, and it sounds like they see you as their home. This is a tough call, but trust your gut!
Thanks! I’m really trying to do what’s best for them. 