I’m at my cousin and his boyfriend’s house right now and it’s really upsetting to see how they treat their dogs. I can’t even say hello to them because they get too excited, which makes the boyfriend yell at them to shut up. They’re stuck in the kitchen all day unless they need to go out. One dog is in a cage, and the other is on a hard floor with no bed. It’s just awful. The one in the cage doesn’t even have water available all the time; he only gets it at meal times. The other dog has access whenever he wants, but it’s just not fair. They’re such friendly dogs and all they want is some love and attention, but I feel like I can’t even give that to them. It makes me feel terrible and I worry they might hate me for it. But what can I do? The boyfriend is so controlling, and my cousin won’t stand up to him. He just lets him take over to avoid conflict. I really dislike people like this. What would you do?
That sounds really frustrating. It’s hard to see animals treated poorly, especially when they just want love. Is there any way you can talk to your cousin about it, maybe in a gentle way?
I totally get it. I’ve been in similar situations before. It’s tough because you want to help the dogs but don’t want to create drama. Maybe you could bring some treats next time and give them when the boyfriend isn’t looking?
It’s so hard to see animals in that situation. I think it’s important to speak up, even if it’s uncomfortable. Maybe you could write a note or something to your cousin about how you feel?
I hate that too. It’s heartbreaking. If it were me, I’d probably try to spend more time with the dogs when I visit, even if it means sneaking in quick pets when the boyfriend isn’t looking.
You have a kind heart for caring. Just remember, you’re not responsible for their situation. It’s tough to see, but sometimes all you can do is be there for them in small ways.